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book ✓ Deepening Our Relationships with Dogs Æ Suzanne Clothier

natural perspective to finding a deep connection with another being BONES WOULD RAIN FROM THE SKY will help you receive an incomparable gift a profound lifelong relationship with the dog you lov WowWhen I started reading this book I didn't know what to expect I can't imagine NOT having a four legged family member and I was told that it was a good book so I was excited to read it Little did I know just how amazing of a read it would be Written beautifully it was easy to connect to and I enjoyed the little sprinkles of humor I honestly couldn't put it down I wanted to read to learn about what she had to say This book not only has made me view my relationships with animals in a different light but it has also inspired me to further learn I have this newfound thirst to really pay attention to the dogs in my life and not only work on improving my relationships with them but work on trying to understand them and their perspective

doc Bones Would Rain from the Sky

Bones Would Rain from the Sky Deepening Our Relationships with DogsAkin to Monty Roberts's The Rain from PDFEPUB #235 Man Who Listens to Horses and going light years beyond The Hidden Life of Dogs this extraordinary book takes a radical new direction in understan If you are looking for a hippy dippy mystical dog training book then look no further This book is all about understanding the dog at an emotional and yes spiritual level Clothier is a disciple of Linda Tellington Jones the pioneer in bodywork with horses and dogs aka therapeutic massage that treats animals' behavioural and emotional imbalances Clothier's basic thesis is that dogs have rich emotional lives and that without respecting that enough to build a high uality eual respectful and loving partnership with them as you would with any being you loved things will go awry Writing in 2001 this book came before the current synthesization of ethological behavioural cognitive approaches and the debunking of a lot of the alpha wolf pack nonsense Clothier states openly and upfront and somewhat defensively that her theories are not founded on that there school book learnin' or any recognized academic credentials but come from her own experience and rather eclectic reading which ranges from Lorenz's classic work in ethology through to Persig's Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance and Buscaglia's LoveLike I said hippy dippyBut I didn't dismiss it outright as is my wont with bullshit mystic fruitcakes these types of authors because she issued a challenge and dammit she is right Just what do we have to lose by thinking of and treating animals in a loving whole and respectful way and shouldn't the results and the relationship that develops speak for itself Where's the resistanceSo I let her take me along for the ride and you know what There's some great things in here which albeit accidentally reconcile the hardcore scientific behaviourist data with the whispery kinda animal training that talks about balance uality soul authenticityAmong other things to read this for is the clarity of her discussion of alphadominancesubmission she dismisses all the terminology as misunderstood and misapplied and wipes the slate clean to take it back to status seeking behaviour which expresses itself differently depending on context and is ONLY expressed in relation to another being She does as good if not a better job on this than even Patricia McConnell in The Other End of the LeashFollowing from this she discusses aggression at length and provides some beautiful examples and analogies that make it clear how 1 we miss the early warning signs of aggression; 2 what we call 'aggressive' acts are often anything but; 3 true aggression is a serious issue that is an animal trying to tell us something is very very wrong don't underestimate or ignore itShe does a great job with the necessity to exert leadership with animals much like with children and takes the entire concept up a notch to avoid the whole pack leader mess and instead nest leadership in the context of setting boundaries providing structure having the animal's or child's best interests at heart taking ownership for any bad behaviour as a failure of the leader and not the fault of the dogchildShe does a beautiful if hard to read dismantling of dog training by so called experts who in fact propose and practice inhumane cruel and outright sociopathic approaches She shows these as the end result of a philosophy that starts with alpha and ends in confusion frustration pain harm and even death She names names This section will make you angry angry angry as it should There are still practitioners out there Brad Pattison comes to mind; Milan might also be in this camp who strenuously defend their practices She says I'm paraphrasing you never have to defend methods that are kind respectful compassionate You only have to defend methods that could be perceived as other than this If you have to defend your practices you need to uestion what you're doing and why you're doing it She is steadfast and fully committed to her own philosophy of kindness respect empathy and love to build healthy relationships She is uber authentic and attentive to her own theories and behaviour being 100 per cent aligned with her underlying philosophy At the same time and this is part of her authenticity she is open about her past acts that have not always been congruent with a loving respectful humane approach She recognizes the baggage she brings and has brought into her relationships with humans and with animals and she encourages us to do the same if what we seek and value are healthy happy loving and genuine relationships And she delves into the murky grey area that exists in any relationship where there is a power imbalance and where one individual must act as leader to ensure the safety of the other She explores the sometimes uncomfortable mantle of leadership the need for a leader to not just persuade but sometimes coerce and the thin line between coercion and what might be classed in a different context as crueltyShe goes on a bit and keeps selling after the sale is made; she sprinkles uotations like confetti seeking to be profound by proxy; her metaphors are sometimes hackneyed; she occasionally strains to make a joke; and she veers into sexist or at least stereotyped analogies a bit too freuently for my own comfort But BUT She redeems herself she really doesShe writes with an underlying logic and authority that overcomes despite her own lack of confidence our doubts and allows us well me anyway to forgive her for her woo woo metaphysics She ends up taking you to interesting places and will open your mind and heart to new thoughts and feelings I had many a ha moments here And she is truly funny and also forgiving of herself and others a lesson she's learned from the doggies She may get some of the details wrong she repeatedly calls if then scenarios doggy math instead of the accurate doggy logic; and she muddles up classical and operant conditioning leading her into dangerous baby bathwater territory but by the time she's done she's presented an absolutely coherent philosophytheory that one can acknowledge as practical usable sensible and really uite lovelyThe last five or six chapters take you right into the heart of the end of a relationship ie the death of several of her own and others' pets and will have you weeping and blubbering along with her or at least it did me And then she goes out on a couple of chapters that rest on Pierre Teilhard de Chardin's we are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience which she extends to the doggies Well hell Why not huh

Suzanne Clothier Æ Bones Would Rain from the Sky: Deepening Our Relationships with Dogs ePub

mobi õ doc Bones Would Rain from the Sky 9780446696340 Ü [PDF / Epub] ☉ Bones Would Rain from the Sky: Deepening Our Relationships with Dogs Author Suzanne Clothier – Akin to Monty Roberts's The Man Who Listens to Horses and going light years beyond The Hidden Life of Dogs this extraordinary boDing our life with canines and offers us astonishing new lessons about our pets From changing the misbehaviors and habits that upset us to seeing the world from their uniue and Bones Would Kindle One of the BEST BOOKS EVER I laughed and cried sometimes at the same time It truly improved my relationship with my dog and confirmed some of the things I was already doing right that made people think I was crazy