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Download What Mothers Do Especially When It Looks Like Nothing doc ê 287 pages ↠ Naomi Stadlen ó ❮BOOKS❯ ✮ What Mothers Do Especially When It Looks Like Nothing Author Naomi Stadlen – Helpyouantib.co.uk In this look at mothering Naomi Stadlen drawIn this look at mothering Naomi Stadlen draws on many years' work with hundreds of ot I found the goal of this book to articulate what mothers do when it may appear to outsiders that they do little to nothing very admirable and largely well done I think that this is an important book for vocalizing what mothers particularly mothers of infants and young children for this book does not deal with mothering over a lifetime do for it offers reassurance to mothers who feel as though they get nothing done all day that they are doing a great deal of mothering without taking it into account and should therefore berate themselves less Unfortunately I found a number of flaws with this book First the author made generalizations about how a mother should or is expected to feel toward her child without giving much allowance to mothers who may feel differently Second the author explicitly says that her book is not a prescription of what mothers should do but rather a description of what mothers do yet she repeatedly offers her precise ideas of what good mothering entails take sleep training for example Third the author seems to completely disregard outside influences or other social and structural influences or restraints when it comes to childrearing; she even states that it is the mother's fault when a child acts out because the mother didn't attend to his needs uickly enough when he was younger I certainly appreciate Stadlen's attempt to materialize the overlooked and invisible value of the relationship between mother and child 126 and challenge the consistent denigration of genuine mothering 294; yet I ask what is genuine mothering? but this book leaves much to be desired

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Es to reveal what they and you are doing when it may look to everyone else like nothi I liked this a lot There is the mothering is the most important work platitude and then there is the you should really be using your degreeyou are just a SAHMyou must not be a feminist that you get from people And sometimes you get them from the same person It could give one whiplash This book is a great way to center yourself and realize what you are doing that it is transient and necessary and that it has value beyond the platitudes This book is slanted toward the Attachment Parenting spectrum but is very careful to not insult mothers with other parenting techniues I can see it possibly upsetting a mother who has to work outside the home but who doesn't want to particularly as it is written from a UK perspective and assumes a full year of maternity leave I think it is well done but I wouldn't want it to sideswipe someone who is already upset about that

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What Mothers Do Especially When It Looks Like NothingHer mothers of a wide variety of ages and backgrounds She explores mothers' experienc My wife is pregnant so we've been looking around for things to read and other ways to learn about parenting This book was suggested by a friend of mine who is also a father though he strongly warned me that I might find it very sexistI understand what he means now but it is also much worse While there are some wonderful uotes from new mothers on those shortly this book is mostly a minefield for any new mother's confidence Stadlen slyly but constantly pushes the agenda that the only good mother is one who stays at home with her kids all while constantly claiming that she only describes mothers' experiences and does not prescribe how to be a good mother I don't know if my wife will stay at home like this she hasn't decided yet but we certainly want honest analysis to help us make a good decision not political manipulationFor example in the chapter on what is motherly love Stadlen argues that a good mother would never have bad feelings towards their child and she names and shames many others who write about feeling that way Other chapters are similarly slanted while overtly claiming not to be especially in the second half of the bookThe good moments I mentioned? This book does have a lot of uotes from mothers interspersed amongst the text and the chapter headings categorise them nicely They make the point that mothering is unexpectedly hard often in invisible ways I think that's a good point and I'm glad they come through despite the author's commentary To summarise What Mother's Do is a dangerous book read it for the uotes if you must but open your eyes before you start