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reader Ü The Art of the Personal Letter A Guide to Connecting Through the Written Word Hardcover read ¾ ➽ [Reading] ➿ The Art of the Personal Letter A Guide to Connecting Through the Written Word By Margaret Shepherd ➲ – Helpyouantib.co.uk When was theY its recipient for yearsFilled with marvelous examples of common types of letters The Art of the Personal Letter provides helpful guidelines to enhance your uniue voice and inspire you to start that holiday letter or difficult letter of apology From choosing just the right words the right stationery and even the right pen or font you'll learn everything you need to know about the timeless art of the personal lette Many people find writing letters cumbersome by having to find a piece of paper address and stamp Or intimidating because they don't know what to sayproperlyThis book takes away the latter issue because the author gives some really useful 'templates' on how to write say a Thank You letter Or what to write to someone whose loved one has passed away a Sympathy letter Or even a letter on trying to hook up again with a long lost love a Can We Try Again? letterAs for those lazy people who don't mail personal letters because they don't have paper they should definitely go out and buy some proper cards which the author gives some great tips on and have stamps on hand Your personal relationships will definitely improve when selflessly sending out missives to those you like love or respect

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Ving you the gift of leisurely expression and allowing you to write beautiful enduring letters to the people you care about be it by hand or on a computer For any occasion whether you're reaching out to connect with a long lost friend or you want to express condolences with grace author Margaret Shepherd gives you both the inspiration and the tools to write a memorable and meaningful letter that will be cherished b To cure the sick heart I'm been diving deep into the word of God To facilitate that goal I've taken up calligraphy to practice writing out scriptureand improve penmanship As long as I'm at it I figure I can start writing letters Yes old fashioned folded into an envelope with a stamp on toplettersHowever I don't know how to write letters I learned the mechanics of letter format but not how to craft the contentThis book went not only into the tips and tools of letter writing but also the content of a number of different types of letters Apology congratulation condolence sympathy advice love holiday etc Each type of letter gives an example of how it would be written VERY helpful advice for the socially challenged like myself I particularly appreciate the author's consideration of modern communication media email social media in light of relationships How modern media may be appropriate for time sensitive subjects In other words when someone might need an email now versus a letter a week from now Armed with this knowledge I look forward to regularly practicing my correspondence uotesTake pains and pleasures in constantly copying the best things you can find done by the hand of great masters Then you will find if nature has granted you any imagination at all that you will eventually acuire a style individual to yourself and it cannot help being good; because your hand and your mind being always accustomed to gather flowers will ill know how to pluck thorns —Cennino d’Andrea Cennini c 1370–c 1440Margaret Shepherd and Sharon Hogan The Art of the Personal Letter A Guide to Connecting Through the Written Word loc 560 564Don’t let your own impossibly high expectations keep you from writing by hand A study by the Pilot pen company a few years ago showed that most people judge their own handwriting much harshly than they judge other people’sMargaret Shepherd and Sharon Hogan The Art of the Personal Letter A Guide to Connecting Through the Written Word loc 597 598Confine yourself to one PS only A second PS makes your thoughts seem fragmented and a third means you should write a second letter after you have gathered your witsMargaret Shepherd and Sharon Hogan The Art of the Personal Letter A Guide to Connecting Through the Written Word loc 892 893Somewhere between the great letters you should write and the daily messages you actually do write you can spend a few minutes on the good letters you could write A letter adds one strand to whatever cord already connects you to others It lets you develop a conversation that’s slow deep and strong You’ll feel closer to people far away and stay up to date with those you see only now and thenMargaret Shepherd and Sharon Hogan The Art of the Personal Letter A Guide to Connecting Through the Written Word loc 948 951CHOOSING THE RIGHT WORDS • Paint a word picture with small specifics rather than vague generalities “I thought of you when a little boy caught a pop fly at the game last night” brings the reader into your life vividly than “We’ve sure had a lot of good times together” In Writing Gooder Rhys Alexander wrote “Detail makes the difference between boring and terrific writing It’s the difference between a pencil sketch and a lush oil painting As a writer words are your paint Use all the colors” • To get started try one of these phrases “I was just thinking” “Something you said reminded me of” “I’ve noticed something that might interest you” “I forgot to tell you” “It’s a beautiful day here I thought you’d like to hear about what happened in our orchard last night” • Instead of the trite “How are you? I am fine” ask uestions that show genuine interest such as “Are you back on your feet?” or “I’m halfway through unpacking” • Be direct Say for example “I wanted to ask how Janet’s recovery is going” rather than just beat around the bush by asking “How are things?” • You don’t really need the filler phrases “for your information” “if you’ll excuse my mentioning it” “no offense but” or “by the way” They make you sound reluctant to write what’s on your mind • I is good You is better We is best Use all three Consider the difference between “I want to be sure you were aware of all the compliments about Juanita’s party We saw the Ryans yesterday and they were raving about it” and just “Great party”Margaret Shepherd and Sharon Hogan The Art of the Personal Letter A Guide to Connecting Through the Written Word loc 981 994RULES OF THUMB FOR WRITING A LETTER HOME Begin your letter by greeting the reader with warmth locate yourself in a specific place and include the complete date Next mention news about places and people you have encountered and send greetings to others as well as to the reader Don’t complain dwell on the transitory raise problems without suggesting solutions harp on things that can’t be fixed like the realities of the separation itself or even mention the kind of problems that are going to be solved before the letter arrives such as lost sleep minor aches and moods Likewise don’t mope or drop verbal bombs Frame any difficulties in possible solutions There’s no need to repeat over and over how much you miss the people at home; this will undermine an adult’s morale drag down a teenager’s normal steps toward independence make a parent feel guilty and upset a child As Shakespeare wrote in Macbeth “Things without all remedy should be without regard” Give the reader specific details about your impressions of the places you’ve visited the people you’ve met and the ways in which these new experiences have transformed your way of thinking Last reaffirm how connected you feel with the readerMargaret Shepherd and Sharon Hogan The Art of the Personal Letter A Guide to Connecting Through the Written Word loc 1016 1027CHOOSING THE RIGHT WORDS • Make associations between your world and the world of your reader For instance “I took a picture for you of a pub called Kiernan’s Alehouse when I was in Ireland last week The same spelling as your son’s name” • Expand the connection by mentioning others “Tell Mom that the scarf she sent has kept me warm all over Minnesota” • Reflect on the effect that your journey has had on your worldview “I never really appreciated how frustrating the language must have been for Yu Yan when she first moved to Texas until I visited that village outside of ufu where not a single soul spoke English” • Underscore the strength of your relationship when you conclude your letter As one nineteenth century traveler wrote home “If I were with you I could talk enough to tire you”Margaret Shepherd and Sharon Hogan The Art of the Personal Letter A Guide to Connecting Through the Written Word loc 1045 1052To send a letter is a good way to go somewhere without moving anything but your heart —Essayist and teacher Phyllis TherouxMargaret Shepherd and Sharon Hogan The Art of the Personal Letter A Guide to Connecting Through the Written Word loc 1058 1060Good friends are hard to find harder to leave and impossible to forget —AnonymousMargaret Shepherd and Sharon Hogan The Art of the Personal Letter A Guide to Connecting Through the Written Word loc 1123 1124RULES OF THUMB FOR WRITING A “KEEP ME ON YOUR RADAR” LETTER At the beginning of your letter reintroduce yourself and remind your reader about who you are and were Mention the nature of your old connection Next describe where you are now both in your life’s journey and on the physical map Also inuire about the other person’s life at present Express a wish for a continued or renewed connection If you have an ulterior motive it’s usually best to be frank right away I learned over the years that one of my acuaintances only wrote me to “get back in touch” when she needed a convenient place to stay on business trips; my recollection of feeling used has kept me from making the same mistake with my own old acuaintances whom I keep in contact with solely for friendship Just as you would in an actual conversation don’t spill too much information right off the bat Don’t be too explicit If you view this person as a confidante but she can barely recall who you are your instant intimacy may put her off In closing convey good wishes and provide clear contact information for a reply If you’ve proposed reconnecting once and received a neutral or frankly negative response admit to yourself that the other person may just not be interested in resuming your relationship MAKE IT PERSONAL Handwriting on stationery paper is a good cure for neglect If you’ve let time slip by show that you are making up for it now by taking time to write by hand If it’s been months or years you don’t need to save another three days by firing off an instant e mail except to inuire about an up to date mailing address What your reader sees and touches will remind her of you so choose ink and paper that expresses who you are Dress your words with the same care you’d use in selecting what to wear to meet someone after you’ve been apart Without turning your letter into an art project or a formal document show that you value the relationship and the other person’s time CHOOSING THE RIGHT WORDS • Use sentences like “I would like to get back in touch” “Let’s catch up” or “It’s been a long time” • Leave until later the statement “I miss you” Instead “I miss our friendship” or “I miss seeing you” may be appropriate The other person may have changed or the situation may have changed • Don’t leave the next steps vague with offers like “We must get together sometime” Offer a specific proposal that is easy to say yes to such as “Are you free for a cup of coffee at the Student Union any Tuesday in March?” Then offer an escape hatch that permits a graceful no such as “If this is not convenient for you let’s stay in touch and try again in May” Don’t put the person on the spot with forced choices • Never ask for an apology after a long silence Be the first to offer one if you think one is called for at all it usually is not If you think your apology would help thaw the ice read chapter 22 on how to say “I’m sorry” in a personal letterMargaret Shepherd and Sharon Hogan The Art of the Personal Letter A Guide to Connecting Through the Written Word loc 1131 1157Adjectives such as fun fabulous exciting prestigious phenomenal successful and incredible don’t give the reader anything to take pleasure in beyond your pleasure They can shut your reader out and even cause a twinge of envy If you can describe what it was that gave you pleasure you’ll share the benefits with the reader the sounds and smells of the Marrakesh markets you visited the smiling ten year olds at the Little League awards ceremony you attended or the theatrical atmosphere at the dog show where Rufus won the prize for “Best Mutt”Margaret Shepherd and Sharon Hogan The Art of the Personal Letter A Guide to Connecting Through the Written Word loc 1250 1253The longer your letter the fewer people you should send it to Send a half page if you mail to than one hundred people Send a whole page if you mail to fewer than one hundred people Send two pages only if you limit your list to the two dozen people who know you wellMargaret Shepherd and Sharon Hogan The Art of the Personal Letter A Guide to Connecting Through the Written Word loc 1274 1275group Prune your mailing list twice a year first right after the holidays to check whose addresses to add remove or change and then again in November to add a few corrections and estimate how many letters to mail Reducing the number of people you mail to will free you up to personalize what you send to the people who really countMargaret Shepherd and Sharon Hogan The Art of the Personal Letter A Guide to Connecting Through the Written Word loc 1278 1281Flatter me and I may not believe you Criticize me and I may not like you Ignore me and I may not forgive you Encourage me and I will not forget you —Pastor scholar and author William Arthur Ward 1921–1994Margaret Shepherd and Sharon Hogan The Art of the Personal Letter A Guide to Connecting Through the Written Word loc 1453 1455RULES OF THUMB FOR WRITING A THANK YOU LETTER Start off by mentioning the gift by name and describe how you benefited Give details about the gift he gave or the reward he helped you getMargaret Shepherd and Sharon Hogan The Art of the Personal Letter A Guide to Connecting Through the Written Word loc 1920 1922Acknowledge your indebtedness but don’t exaggerate Be lavish but not melodramatic Psychologists talk about the “tyranny of the gift” when the recipient can’t ever be grateful enough; there’s also a similar “tyranny of the thank you” when the gratitude is inflated out of proportion to the giver’s intentions The reader will be most interested in your gratitude not your unworthiness or your lateness Add details about your own life plus news plans and opinions Then allude to your ongoing connection with the reader and close with warmth MAKE IT PERSONAL If your gratitude is worth a letter it’s worth a good looking letter Choose materials that are either fine and formal or warm and cozy depending on the nature of your letter Avoid arty and idiosyncratic paper or comic note cards Use white or off white unlined paper that is slightly smaller than standard business stationery Don’t write a personal letter on your employer’s stationery or stamp it through the postage machine Print it out in pleasantly readable black type or handwrite it with black blue or blue black ink One roommate writes to another with the sort of appreciation that could have been expressed aloud but which packs an extra punch on paper Your materials should be age appropriate for both you and your reader Well chosen paper and ink can show respect to your elders speak the language of your peers or catch the fancy of the small fry For a lasting monument to gratitude use ink on good stationery Even the best e mail suggests you are cutting corners for your own convenience E mail is too offhand and a printout letter is often too impersonal for a task that demands evidence of sincerity and effort Do however send a printout letter when you thank a friend who has gone to bat professionally by writing a letter of recommendation for youMargaret Shepherd and Sharon Hogan The Art of the Personal Letter A Guide to Connecting Through the Written Word loc 1923 1939Most personal letters rest on the assumption of an ongoing connection If you are writing to thank a person such as an interviewer for simply doing his job send a short business note not a long personal letter about yourself and your dreams CHOOSING THE RIGHT WORDS • Say thank you on paper with many of the same words you would use in person if you could have an hour over a cup of tea or coffee to talk and catch up Use words like grateful kind glad thanks thank you thankful and appreciate • Praise the reader’s kindness specifically Write “You are so thoughtful” or “You made me feel so welcome” rather than “You are such a great person” or “That was a wonderful present” • Share your delight and acknowledge the giver’s role in making something possible for you “Thanks to you and your letter of recommendation I got hired right away—only six days of nail biting and stewing Then they needed me the next day I am already finding that the skills I learned from watching you with a classroom full of four year olds are very useful when I deal with fourteen year olds” • Write “I hope I can help someone else the way you have helped me” or “Thank you from the bottom of my heart” rather than an obvious exaggeration such as “You’ve saved my life” or “I owe you my firstborn”Margaret Shepherd and Sharon Hogan The Art of the Personal Letter A Guide to Connecting Through the Written Word loc 1945 1956

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The Art of the Personal Letter A Guide to Connecting Through the Written WordWhen was the last time you wrote a letter? Or received one in the mail?These days it's so easy to dash off a uick e mail or text message or make a cell phone call while you're on the run that you may rarely make time for letter writing But letters are a time honored form of connection that simply cannot be eualed or replaced by faster methods of communication The Art of the Personal Letter reclaims this lost art gi This book is a reminder to reinvest in your relationships the old fashioned way It's a light read and there's no need to sit down and read it all at once but it is a good reference to turn to when drafting something tricky like a letter of condolences