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Read To the End of June 107 È [PDF / Epub] ☆ To the End of June By Cris Beam – Beam presents both a sharp critiue of foster care policies and a searching exploration of the meaning of family Publishers Weekly starred reviewWho are the children of foster care What as a country do Beam presents both a End of Epub Ý

To the End of JuneMirrors the the End of PDF #202 life cycle of a foster child and so begins with the removal of babies and kids from birth families There's a teenage birth mother in Texas who signs away her parental rights on a napkin only to later reconsider crushing the hopes of her baby's adoptive parents Beam then paints an unprecedented portrait of the intricacies of growing up in the system the back and forth with agencies the shuffling between pre adoptive homes and group homes the emotionally charged tug of prospective adoptive parents and the fundamental pull of birth parents And then. This is a compelling though sobering look at foster care and how it affects kids and families This book is best read to get a sense of the major issues in foster care and for the personal stories of the people the author follows and less so for specific information about how the system worksFoster care as it turns out is a big topic so this book doesn’t cover everything for instance it focuses almost exclusively on New York It starts with the reasons kids are removed from their homes – much often for neglect than abuse and “neglect” can mean anything from the parents being on drugs to a baby’s mother being an impoverished teen who doesn’t know how to care for a child Babies and very young children are the most likely to be adopted and so are often placed in pre adoptive homes – but that can lead to heartrending situations for all concerned when a biological parent wants the child back but the foster parents don’t want to give them upMeanwhile kids who aren’t adopted – either because their biological parents try just hard enough to prevent their rights from being terminated or because the kids are older and no one steps up – can be shuffled among different homes for years In New York apparently nobody keeps track of past placements that worked out – so a kid can be fostered for years by a loving family go home for a few months and then when things go downhill again be placed in a random new home rather than with the original foster parents I believe this is handled better where I live – and certainly hope so because that is a disaster The book also looks at group homes and institutions – the end of the line for foster kids and a situation that usually only adds to a kid’s feeling of alienationNot surprisingly this whole system leaves children traumatized than it finds them and much of the book focuses on teenagers and young adults aging out of the system The author follows families who are committed to the kids and willing to adopt and a few work out but many flounder despite good intentions And in the end kids are on their own without any foundation – often having changed schools too much to earn a diploma without the skills or maturity to keep a job and most importantly without the emotional and financial support system that almost everyone rich poor or middle class relies on when transitioning to adulthoodSo this is not a happy book but it does illustrate all of these experiences in a compelling way through the stories of kids and adults who have lived through them Beam writes without judgment about the kids and parents allowing readers to see what these folks are going through and draw their own conclusionsA couple of Beam’s opinions come across a little too strongly though She opposes removing children from their parents in general – and while by the end of the book we can see why she still takes it rather far seeming to lament the deaths of children at the hands of their parents only because it is bad PR for marginal families and results in removals Clearly some kids need to be removed And in the conflict between biological and prospective adoptive parents she’s on the side of the biological families no matter how little they may have to offer Beam describes her position as “liberal” apparently because she is otherwise liberal – she acknowledges that opinions about foster care don’t fall along partisan lines and I can see liberal and conservative arguments on both sides At any rate these opinions are most prominent early in the book in the section dealing with babies; the chapters about teenagers and adults leave much less room for ideological differencesMy other criticism is that while the individual stories are intriguing and enlightening discussions of law and policy are less so Of course laws change from decade to decade and vary from state to state while policy differs from county to county and so this isn’t the focus of the book But I was sometimes left unclear on how laws or policies discussed affect kids or to what extent they are even implementedDespite those criticisms I found this to be a very worthwhile read one that engaged my attention and added to my understanding of a slice of society I knew little about I would recommend this to those interested in foster care or sociology

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To the End of June ↠ Beam presents both a End of Epub #221 sharp critiue of foster care policies and a searching exploration of the meaning of family Publishers Weekly starred reviewWho are the children of foster care What as a country do we owe them Cris Beam a foster mother herself spent five years immersed in To the ePUB #10003 the world of foster care looking into these uestions and tracing firsthand stories The result is To the End of June an unforgettable portrait that takes us deep inside the lives of foster children at the critical points in their search for a stable loving familyThe book. I read this book because I was interested in adopting an older child I found it difficult to find books about this topic and was very surprised that none of the Barnes and Nobles in my area had even one book on foster care or older adoption Luckily my local bookstore Elliot Bay Books had at least two shelves of adoption books though most of them are about infant adoptionI uickly discovered why Older child adoptions are not the same as the adoptions I had seen on TV and in movies I thought you go to an agency process paperwork wait a really long time a kid shows up interviews adoption proceedings and despite hard times they are your sondaughter forever Well its much complicated than thatFor example older children's parents are given a 15 month grace period once their child enters the public care system so that those parents still get a chance to come back and get their kids This means constant delays in the process to give a kid permanency Older children in the care system are not only NOT adopted right away but when they enter foster care the public system allows a 10 day return policy where you can actually return your foster child within 10 days to the serious detriment of the kid's emotional health And being adopted right away isn't a good idea Beam details a sight unseen adoption which falls apart in a matter of monthsFoster care is not a happy subject and Beam doesn't try to make it one but she does achieve in making it feel real in its ups and downs She introduces the reader to a happy foster family with a trove of kids and lets you follow them across five years where the true troubles of the foster care system play out and the happy foster family the Greens are slowly unraveled Some of their adoptions are great like an open adoption for an infant where the real father sticks around to stay involved but also keeps distance in case he relapses in his drug addiction The natural father eventually makes the choice that's best for the child keep the baby with the family he's already attached to of which there is no drug addiction They also have adoptions that fail such as adopted kids runaway get arrested see their natural born parents and follow in their footsteps into crime or drugs The toughest part to read in the book is when she visits residential treatment centers which are institutions where they send kids in the foster care system who have become violent or are generally troubled In these centers the state also sends kids with special needs and disabilities and kids who are in juvenile detention Before reading this book I had a misconception that the traditional orphanage style home where kids could get structure and be served to scale was possibly a good idea I learned I was very wrong In fact I learned that most of my assumptions about how to help troubled kids was completely wrong These centers did nothing for these kids; if anything it helped them down the path to crime or homelessness There is only one assumption I had that turned out to be about true that unconditional love and a commitment to be the adult that stays with a troubled teen could possibly help these kids begin to recover from a range of indescribable trauma sexual physical and mental abuse a constant feeling of un wantedness self doubt and blame and loss of contact of other family and ever present poverty Beam interviews a foster home that fosters kids aging out or already aged out of the system 21 is the cut off age where your benefits stop and the state is released of any responsibility to you with a loose structure based around giving foster kids the space to regress through their trauma and get through it The foster mom even recalls a 14 year old that carried and drank from a baby bottle as if working backwards through growth to relive what they've lost Through profiles of dozens of kids you see a range of outcomes but most importantly Beam illustrates the whole picture generations of kids lost and confused turned out to adulthood with only disastrous conseuences a public welfare system that is prioritized around child safety and structure here's a roof over your head and rules to follow instead of attachment nurture the child to trust and love again and permanent bonding finding for kids that one adult that stays no matter the struggleLastly Beam's report of foster care calls into uestion the first action that society makes taking children from their parents When the reason for splitting up a family is neglect and that interpretation is largely subjective and nebulous it is dubious whether splitting the family apart is the best course of action given the state of foster care and the effect on the parents Given the disproportionate investment in a failing system it'd be worth considering whether the same amount of state investment per child upwards six figures through a whole foster care stint which averages 4 5 years would not be better spent given to invest in improving those natural born families struggling in the first place A friend of mine once told me there was a saying that abortion was the bowling ball on the mattress of American politics I wonder if it is not abortion but foster care In a singular issue are the beginnings and ends of so many societal problems crime homelessness poverty drugs racism and disease Its a problem that's all of ours and one that we need to solve review ↠ eBook, PDF or Kindle ePUB Ò Cris Beam

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Cris Beam Ò 7 Read What happens as these system reared kids become adults Beam closely follows a group of teenagers in New York who are grappling with what aging out will mean for them and meets a woman who has parented eleven kids from the system almost all over the age of eighteen and all still in desperate need of a sense of home and belongingFocusing intensely on a few foster families who are deeply invested in the system's success To the End of June is essential for humanizing and challenging a broken system while at the same time it is a tribute to resiliency and offers hope for real chan. Stumbled onto this book at the library while searching for parenting books Of course my heart melted when I saw the cover As a new parent I couldn’t imagine my precious baby being passed between strangers It broke my heart to think about itUnfortunately the author is crazy uber liberal I later discovered she wrote a prior book for parentsfoster parents promoting the transgender lifestyle for teens She colors her writing with bias She displays sympathy to rule breakers and actively lays blame on others ie criminals shouldn’t be in jail for societies “failures” I also found it annoying that in the prologue she acts like foster care is the only issue in the world She seems to think that if you aren’t actively trying to fix foster care you are a monster Heaven forbid you work on different issuesUltimately I couldn’t finish the book due to the author’s extreme political leanings Too bad I am genuinely interested in the topic