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DOWNLOAD Finding Jake î PDF, eBook or Kindle ePUB Ä ❮PDF❯ ✐ Finding Jake Author Bryan Reardon – Helpyouantib.co.uk A heart wrenching yet ultimately uplifting story of psychological suspense in which a parent is forced to confront what he does—and does not—know about his teenage son in the vein of RecoA heart wrenching yet ultimately uplifting story of psychological suspense in which a parent is forced to confront what he does and does not know about his teenage son in the vein of Reconstructing Amelia Defending Jacob and We Need to Talk about KevinWhile his successful wife goes off to her law office each day Simon Connolly takes care of their kids Jake and Laney Now that they are in high school the angst ridden father should feel relaxed but he doesn't He’s seen the statistics read the headlines And. Life is kind of like that picking the memories you want to frame We all have an idea of how it should be all smiles and swing sets There are the unsavory moments that we leave in the box stashed up in the darker parts of our psyche We know they exist but we don’t go flaunting them in front of the dinner guests There are three main elements in Finding Jake the parentchild relationship the way the world treats those who are different and the mystery of what happened leading up to during and after the central event of the storySimon Connolly is a former political operative He works as a writer but took on the additional stay at home role when he and his wife Rachel had their first child He is pretty good at it if a bit of a worrier When he gets a text from his kids’ school he is rocked to his core There has been a shooting Bryan Reardon image from PenguinRandom HouseFor the first two thirds the story is divided fairly eually between following the events post shooting as they emerge Simon and Rachel’s torment in trying to find out what happened to their son and what he might have done or suffered and Simon recalling the years from Jake’s birth The final third is about the post shooting events searching for Jake and the truth We see everything through Simon’s eyesEver wonder if you screwed up your kid Allowed too much Too little Encouraged too much Too little Spent enough time with them Maybe too much Encouraged them to experience the world too much not enough What if they followed your advice and it all went wrong What if they ignored you and it went right Where is that Goldilocks perfect middle We can probably all look back over the lives of our children and second guess our parenting decisions our approaches Will our kids turn out ok Could they have turned out better Are we good parents or did we mess it up Another element in this vein is wondering how well you know your own child How well can you Welcome to Simon’s head I do not want to give the impression that Simon is a sort of Woody Allen neurotic He is not He is a regular guy a loving father but when he learns that a troubled friend of his son is implicated in the shooting there is plenty of self uestioning to be doneHow responsible are we for the behavior of our children for their fate How much is nurture and how much nature As the father of three grown children I could certainly relate to Simon’s concerns While I was only a stay at home dad for a fairly brief time I could certainly appreciate the awkwardness he feels being a male homemaker It is one of many elements in this book that is convincingly and accurately portrayed I can also report from personal experience that my three arrived with very definite personalities Not a blank slate in the bunch We parents certainly can have an impact but our progeny arrive with their own capacities and predilections And they most definitely keep their own secrets Simon not knowing everything about Jake’s life is 100% believableReardon shows us snapshots of Jake’s life over the 18 years from in vitro to missing teen Not exactly the most social kid on the uiet side but not to an extreme degree Simon is concerned about Jake having a dodgy friend at age 8 Later he encourages Jake to spend time with other kids In this family photo album we see Simon and Rachel’s relationship change over time as well Tensions and some bright moments for them tooThe back third of the book offers what seemed to me a pretty accurate look at how one’s neighbors are likely to respond in a pressured situation so many throwers so few buses and how the voracious media feeds on and produces fear How many times have you seen a neighbor interviewed on the tube report that so and so a known or suspected shooter was a “uiet” person We have acuired a sense as a culture that there is something wrong with people who are “uiet” introspective not party animals Was Jake responsible for the shooting Well he was uiet not particularly social so what do you expect Whether he is or isn’t it is his social distance that is considered the tell And what of Jake’s dad He did not exactly fit in either Maybe the uiet apple does not fall far from the treeTo a large extent humans are pack animals ueen bees and bullies do their best to cull pack members who look or act differently Our media is than happy to pile on as professional practitioners of the blame game and our institutions seem unable to control predatory behavior by the ins Maybe they are not really all that interested in controlling it Sometimes there is blowback they need to be able to explain it away That’s what all this is about If they can’t categorize what happened put it in a nice neat box they can’t sleep at nightI’ve done it before Now I see how awful it can be though It’s like they want to pick at us until we are bare exposed just to make themselves feel better They dissect our pain just so they can convince themselves they are immune to it It is like someone suffering a horrible disease and finding someone who is worse off than they are and asking them Why Why are you worse off than me How is your situation different from mine Tell me so I can go home feeling better as you stay here and die Reardon does not offer in depth analysis of Columbine type child shooters That is not what this is about But Finding Jake does cover a range of subjects parental responsibility the social environment signs of trouble making moral choices media amorality police presumptuousness neighborly selfishness You will not find dazzling poetic prose here The language is straightforward and entirely effective It is about the story and underlying content and not the form You will definitely feel for Simon as a sort of everyman caught in a bad situation He is honorable intelligent and analytical but is still fraught with the fears and doubts that anyone in his position might experience If you are a parent Finding Jake will touch a very deep place inside you If you are not a parent it will give you at least a taste of what it means to be one The author writes from experience about Simon’s life and his fretting I've spent the last decade working from home while caring for my kids I worry about them every day Much of that angst fueled the writing of this book Like Simon the name of the Reardon family pooch btw Reardon is also a writer and former political worker He specializes in medical communications I had a couple of gripes about the book Simon’s wife behaves on two occasions in a way that I found difficult to accept And the final chapter seemed unnecessary Too much leading readers by the handOther than that though this is both a moving and a riveting novel Once you begin reading you will not want to stop Finding Jake is most definitely a book that is worth looking for Pub date – 22415EXTRA STUFFThe author's FB and GRHis previous work includes Ready Set Play a collection of essays on parent child bonding through sports and Cruel Harvest a memoir about a battered childhoodFor an excellent look at the Ur school shooting or our age I heartily recommend Dave Cullen’s Columbine His new book 2019 Parkland offers a different approach and some hope for change ahead 111414 A New York Times article about Stay At Home dads

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Now his darkest fear is coming true There has been a shooting at school Simon races to the rendezvous point where he’s forced to wait Do they know who did it How many victims were there Why did this happen One by one parents are led out of the room to reunite with their children Their numbers dwindle until Simon is aloneAs his worst nightmare unfolds and Jake is the only child missing Simon begins to obsess over the past searching for answers for hope for the memory of the boy he raised for mistakes he m. I ran out of steam to want to review this book There were too many things I did not like about it that did not allow me to fully enjoy the book as excited as I was to start itI found mom and dad unlikable There was no chemistry between the two and there was no chemistry between the dad and his kids I didn't uite feel that bond that united dad to Jake much less to Laney the youngest daughter I found the dad to be whiny and insecure and boo hoo hooing every other chapter about how he felt incompetent and inadeuate as a dad and undeserving of being one Even though dad has been a stay at home dad for about fifteen years he never seems to tire mentioning it every chapter I was sick of hearing his sob story and wanted to yell at him Toughen up I hated the flashbacks of Jake growing up I wanted of the story of the actual shooting and what led up to the event How did Jake get involved in his friendship to Doug A lot had to be happening just before the shooting occured but that really never gets examinedWhen we finally get to dad's search for Jake I had already become detached from the story It did not have the impact one me it should have when dad's search comes to an end The ending was a bit cliche for me with the dog thingSome of the things the family practiced such as atonement moment child can tell parent anything and parent cannot get mad ask uestions about it or judge or tell me 3 things game played at dinner table where everyone tells three things that happened to them that day felt contrived and seemed like the author was trying too hard to tell the reader how uirky cute or special this family was I had to roll my eyes everytime an atonement moment was asked for Sorry but I can't see how this would work You mean to tell me if my kid comes and tells me something very serious I'm not allowed to uestion counsel or step up as a parent Sorry not happeningDisappointed that it turned out not be what I wanted

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Finding JakeUst have made for the reason everything came to this Where is Jake What happened in those final moments Is it possible he doesn’t really know his son Or he knows him better than he thoughtBrilliantly paced Finding Jake explores these uestions in a tense and emotionally wrenching narrative Harrowing and heartbreaking surprisingly healing and redemptive Finding Jake is a story of faith and conviction strength courage and love that will leave readers uestioning their own lives and those they think they know. This was a gripping read As soon as I started I just had to finish itSimon is a stay at home dad to his two kids Jake and Laney When he gets a text saying there is a shooting at his kids school his world is torn apart We read this story through Simons point of view with alternating chapters going back and forth from past to present We read of the turmoil Simon goes through with his insecurities about rearing his sonThere is so much to this story I'm really glad I didn't read any spoilers so the twists weren't predictable If I had one complaint it would be that I didn't really connect with Rachel Having said that this was a really great well written psychological suspenseful story Well done to the author on his debut novel